Chapter 3: Calling the community together for consultation (paragraph 1)

The community themselves should be careful to offer their advice with due deference and respect, avoiding an obstinate defence of their own convictions.  (From para. 1 of Ch. 3 of St. Benedict's Rule, trans. by Patrick Barry, OSB, 1997.)

St Benedicts reminds me of the violence that can be done with words, an aggression that precludes selfless attention, and makes listening impossible.